和自己說說話

Jun 11, 2024

不有趣不好玩，且以消耗 (consume) 而非生產 (produce) 為主的事情，是浪費時間的事情。

我觀察到自己時常會進入一些令我癱瘓的、可持續維持若干小時的，屬浪費時間的心理慣性狀態。在這個狀態下，開始做一件事情很困難，按時完成自己制定的計劃更困難。重要的事情我總是拖延到最後一刻才開始做，儘管最後時刻受焦慮驅動可以十分高效地以一定質量完成它，但往往自己對結果都不是很滿意。自己像是陷入了一個經典的拖延兩難：要是強迫自己做事情，整個身心會一齊抗議，然後我就會直接放棄；要是留到最後一刻才開始，那最後一刻我就會厭惡自己。

我可以用很多之乎者也來分析為什麼自己會這樣，但今天我更想寫一下我目前覺得還蠻適合我的解決方案——「放慢動作，和自己說說話」。

The goal is to either make me focus more on the processes instead of results, and to trick myself into start working on them.

當你很急很想完成什麼的時候

Hey Ian, 我知道很長一段時間以來，你都很想做出點成果，很想和玩遊戲一樣在短短的時間裡面快速成長。但如同你的好朋友和你說的那樣「每個人都有不同的步伐和足跡。你不必急於加快自己的步伐，不必為現在才懂得別人早就知道的道理而感到焦慮和不安，更不必為還沒思考出什麼而迷茫和無措。」

成長的過程是緩慢的，它 by definition 是累積性的。任何有價值的東西 by nature 是需要 hard work, commitment 和 determination 的。

你看到很多現在做出很多成果的人，他們不是一開始就如此 amazing。”Every master was once a disaster.”

“You shouldn’t compare yourself to the most successful founders now, they became much more impressive in the course of doing their startup, and so can you” — Sam Altman

我知道你懂得這個道理，所以 please be patient to grind, trust the process of growth, and by the end of this year, you will be amazed by how much you got done over the three months and how much you’ve changed.

當你進入滑手機慣性的時候

Hey, are you feeling alright? What happened today? Is this how you want to be spending your time?

Hey, life is short, youth is short, you want to actively seek out things that matter and avoid bullshits like this. Things that matter are the things you’ll care about in the future. Relentlessly prune bullshit.

Get up, I'm going to set a 7 minutes timer [1], and you will pick an interesting book and start reading. If you still feel fatigue after 7 minutes, then go and take a walk. Remember, action precedes motivation.

當你不想起床躺著滑手機的時候

Yo man，早安。好了，停，別想那麼多，先去刷個牙，要是刷完牙還想躺回去滑的話，再躺回去滑。

當你坐在電腦無法專心的時候

Yo easy bro, I’m going to set a 7 minute timer [2], you’ll start working on what you’re supposed to be working on. If you feel restless after the timer goes off, then stop working now and go clear all those inboxes, you’re more suited for that.

How do you talk to yourself?

Feel free to leave a comment :)

Notes:

[1][2] Couple this will Apple Shortcut, copy mine here.

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